I find the above cringe-worthy at times. Especially when I am really stressed and someone says to me to slow down and do some self-care. Go get a massage. Go to the gym. Get to bed early. Look, I’m trying to get any one of those things done on any given day and someone saying that to me adds one more thing to my to do list.
However, there is some sage advice here. I am taking this to mean slow down and breathe.
I am slowing down and breathing.
Recently, my daughter was very sick for a week or so. So sick that I could not sleep well and I lost my appetite for food. I wasn’t going to the gym and it was hard to find time to meditate. I was doing an amazing job of keeping my cool in front of her and losing it in the shower. I was juggling balls upon balls. I could see what was happening as it was happening.
If something happens to me who is going to do this? Who is going to give her medicine at 12am? Who is going to make sure she is taking all of her probiotics? Who is going to keep track of her favorite stuffy? Who is going to hold her when she cries and soothes her back to sleep? Who is going to gossip about who she likes at school and her friends and her shoes?
There is one person in all of this word that can do this and it’s me. Right now, I’m the one. I’m Mom. Mommy. Mama. This girl right here. And I have a responsibility to her to take better care of myself. To actually do some “self-care”.
I’m starting slow. The first and maybe most important for me – Sleep! And I sleep better when I am exercising so I am moving my body every single day. Exercise also reduces my stress so I will be knocking out two big debilitator’s in one shot. The rest of the self-care protocol I’m writing now. I’m actually putting together a plan so that when life throws a wrench in my day I will have a plan to deal with it.
The good news is as soon as I write it, I’ll post it here for you to use for yourself. And you can use the plan every day.
Life is crazy and unpredictable. Find the joy and slow down when you can.
And for now, take a deep breath and let go.
Here’s to your health,